I am Lauren, a mama just like you, seeking the goodness and beauty in motherhood. With this blog, I write everyday joys alongside everyday struggles. I will mention things happening in my life that I love and those things that I wish were not there.
When I had two kids and could occasionally pick up my phone in the middle of the day, in desperation I once Googled something like, “finding joy on hard days with little kids.” I loved my life and kids but I was simply having a rough day. You know the type – it is the third day since you have bathed or felt like a human being, one child was up all night, the cupboards are empty, you feel trapped by to do’s, etc., etc. Unsurprisingly, Google could not help me. I felt like a terrible woman who must either be ungrateful and selfish or a total failure since no one obviously had my troubles. A whole year and a half later, getting out to some play groups and talking with mothers in the same chapter of life made me realize I was not an outlier. Many women felt and struggled similarly. I was among friends.
One thing I have learned in my years on earth is that isolation exacerbates problems and leads us away from truth into misconceptions. We were made to be in community with one another, and sharing authentically enables us to help each other. I explore the not-so-pretty sides of life so that when you too experience hard times, you will find that you are not alone. I chronicle my thoughts to show how we can meet struggles with Biblical truth, wisdom, and a helpful perspective. Struggles aside, I depict the quotidian life. As Jane Austen so wisely understood, the everyday things that happen to most people most days of their lives mean that “every nuance and contour of whatdoeshappen takes on considerable importance.”1And from Winnie the Pooh, the little things we do, the “nothing” that happens everyday, “often leads to the very best kind of something.”2What happens now matters.
In “Letters to Ivan,” I share stories that I write to my grandfather. “Things I Like” relays resources and strategies that I find helpful, whereas I write “Ponderings” when I want to go deeper. In “Reorienting Myself” I look up at or to our Lord. Finally, “Questions” is where I honestly portray the hard days that many mothers face.
Though your experiences and mine will differ in many particulars, our stories will overlap as we together walk in obedience to God. In the best of times and the worst of times, we cling to our one sure foundation and the hope we have in Christ. For we know from Romans 8:28 that “All things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to His purpose.” And we see throughout the Scriptures that God restores all things, both in this life and in the life to come – yes, even restoring our everydays.
1 Leithart, Peter. Miniatures and Morals. Canon Press, 2004. Print.
2 Christopher Robin. Dir. Marc Forster. Perf. Ewan McGregor, Hayley Atwell, Bronte Carmichael, Mark Gatiss, Oliver Ford Davies, Ronke Adekoluejo, Adrian Scarborough, Roger Ashton-Griffiths, Ken Nwosu, and John Dagleish. Disney, 2018. Theaters.